If you are considering getting married or moving on to a more serious level in your relationship, such as in cohabitation, you are likely concerned about whether your relationship will be able to stand the test of time. Marriages that start now have roughly a 50% chance of failing. Then again, the other 50% succeed! I imagine that you would like to be part of the latter group. But both groups start their marriages with the belief that their relationship is special and won’t be part of that “other” group. Love can be blind, right? Then how can you prepare yourselves to increase the chances that you will be one of the “survivors?”
In premarital counseling, I help couples identify their strengths as well as explore and identify those areas of the relationship that are already problematic or have the potential to be problematic. The counseling process also is an incredible opportunity to bring to light and into conversation those aspects of your relationship which you have never talked about for whatever reason or those that you did not even consider to be important.
Although I cannot guarantee that you will live happily ever after, I can say with confidence that you will be able to identify and explore pertinent areas of your relationship that will have a bearing on the quality of your relationship. We will examine how each of you approaches handling finances, communicate and express desires and needs, manage anger and disappointment, discern the nature of your relationships with each other’s families, learn important components of apologies and forgiveness, examine the role of alcohol, express attitudes toward touch and sexuality, determine where you stand regarding religion and spirituality and your expectations of the other, look at the degree of sharing and styles of decision making and many other dimensions of relationship.
So, now is likely the best time to evaluate and address those critical issues in your relationship and move forward with more knowledge and confidence about what lies ahead for you.
If you believe it would be valuable to address and resolve these issues now before they really become a problem, give me a call and let’s see how I may be of service to you.
I am a Certified Love Thinks trainer and incorporate the PICK (Premarital Interpersonal Choices and Knowledge) Program within an overall holistic approach to help individuals make good relationship decisions.